Review: Six Suspects


Jessica Lal, Manu Sharma, Sanjeev Nanda, Salman Khan, Barkha Dutt, petty-criminals from UP, the 'Page-three' celebrities, the Underdogs of Indian Political System - What you get when you combine these pieces together? Vikas Swarup's latest - Six Suspects - adds these together (in a fictitious sort of way) to give yet another piece leading the reader into the nooks and corner of India which we daily witness, discover and revel.

In this one too, Swarup presents a style similar to that in Q&A, in that the story looks back from a particular event and then uncovers its way to describe the present. As the title goes, Six Suspects revolves around these six (of course!) characters, distinct in every way, each of their stories compelling enough with whodunnit at the core. One thing they all have in common is Vivek aka 'Vicky' Rai - complete playboy industrialist and bollywood producer - who is killed on the eve of his birthday party at Number Six, his famous farm house at the outskirts of Delhi. And as a matter of fact, our six protagonists happen to be at that party, and some of them with the intention of killing the casanova! So while the book takes us through the journey of these unique individuals, it goes way beyond 'who killed Vicky Rai'.

So who are these six suspects?

1. An American tourist whose tales take us through the realms of being cheated by the 'Indians', the country's call centers in Mumbai to the peak of terrorism in Kashmir and above all, his 'Americanism' in between all that. About to marry his 'pen-friend', he lands into this 'inscrutable' country not knowing what likes ahead; oh and he also happens to share his name with the Google entrepreneur - Larry Page.

2. An indigenous tribal from Andaman whose travelog involves cutting through the gritty regions of the 'non-tribal' India that he is bewelidered by and somehow this character makes the reader realize the facets of India not known to its own people.

3. A corrupt bureaucrat who serves on the board of Vicky Rai's company and by a sheer accident of sorts, is amusingly transformed into the spirit of Mahatma Gandhi that leads him to Gandhigiri in splits.

4. A Bollywood starlet for whom Vicky Rai has a special inkling, an indecent proposal of sorts, that she reluctantly accepts. Maybe, there is a hidden motive there?

5. A small-thief caught in the angst of rich versus poor, love versus hatred; whose fate leads him into a situation that is beyond what he could fathom.

6. Finally the father of the deceased and also the home minister of UP - Jagannath Rai - who has very strong inclination in having his own son dead.

With a gun found from each of these suspects at the scene of the murder, the book takes us through a roller-coaster journey into the lives of these individuals (and those that link them all to Vicky Rai) from the partially-narrative eye of an investigative journalist, Arun Advani.

Having read Indian authors the likes of R.K.Narayan, Amitav Ghosh, Salman Rushdie and Shobha De, they all provide diverse outlooks on India, its people and the culture that defines them both - be it the rural authenticity of Malgudi Days or the Sunderbans described romantially by Ghosh, the mythical fantasies associated with Rushdie or the upper class turbulences by De. Infact, Swarup does none of that and when you read this book, it sems like an expose of characters taken from those we see through our rear-view mirrors. He brings to life an intermix of people, culture, race, religion all derived from one mass, and yet so distinct!

Not many may approve of his style of writing wherein the characters are not succinctly defined or the fineness in the plot but in my opinion from his two books, both the language and the outline are gripping and total page-turners. Fast-paces dialogues make it surreal and extremely entertaining but maybe not from a literary perspective. It is said that too many ingredients (or is it cooks?) spoil the broth but this one spices up some bizarre twists of fiction and weaves them together with a vast breadth of information thus making it totally worth a read.

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I chanced upon a list of 100 things to do in Mumbai and almost every one of them brings back memories of times spent gallivanting around the city! Each of us have our own 'things to do' in the city we love, the city that runs through our memory veins and the city that has the ability to bring out the best AND the worst in us.

I reproduce this list as is here with my comments on some of the things I have done, yet to do and my own interpretation of some that I am attached to:

1. Get high on Qawaali at Haji Ali - Not sure about the Qawaali but totally worth walking through the slippery, rocky path that lead up to the Masjid and then do the 'maatha teko'. Make sure the head is covered as a form of respect to the place. It is a norm.

2. Spot a celebrity at Juhu PVR

3. Sit down on the steps of Asiatic Society Library - and watch the world go by!

4. Crane your neck to see the Bombay Stock Exchange building - The site of watching brokers and those alike on-the-go and on-the-phone. For a photographer, it would be fun to capture images and expressions of these individuals.

5. Spot a leopard in IIT Bombay Campus. If you can't, settle for an IITian girl.

6. Enjoy a play in Prithvi Theatre - absolutely! A personal favorite!! And not to forget, some hot coffee to sip along with some brownies too. If keen on dinner, some aloo paratha with kaali dal and raita!

7. Enjoy the NCPA in a play or opera - their experimental theatre showcases some of the best talents in the city! Also, it can be followed by some good road-side Chinese food if those stalls still exist considering, they were banned at several places.

8. Find some calm around the Banganga Tank - I'd say, visit this place during the Banganga Festival. It is priceless!

10. Haggle for non-antiques in Chor Bazaar - they say, you never know what will be handed to you!

11. Face the high tide on Worli seaface - and thereafter, munch on some grilled veggie sandwiches and gulp down Energy! If its a rainy day, how about a cup of tea and some butta?

12. Bet money on race horses at the Royal Western Indian Turf Club, Mahalaxmi - More of a fashion show and since I am always low on cash, I would avoid this one. However, I would recommend some nice brunch at Gallops and watch the horses trot.

13. Dangle your feet, lean back on your palms and enjoy the sea from the Marine Drive promenade - Apply #7 and latter part of #10 here as well.

14. Go for a heritage walk in the Naval Dockyard (first Sunday of every month, Indian nationals only) - Wow, this sounds intriguing! Will try it the next time I am in the city.

15. Explore the Sanjay Gandhi National Park. A National Park in the city limits? Oh yeah! - Totally recommend this one. It seems there is less-travelled path that leads form Borivili to Powai (An IITian friend did this one!) and some of us friends did attempt on this one, after bunking a dreary lecture but 15 minutes into the stretch and we returned!! But do recommend Kanheri Caves and rock-climbing.

16. Soak in the Victoria Terminus - Delight to the eyes at night and something to soak in! Also, interesting is to hop on a 'shared' cab ride during peak times from here. You'd be surprised at the kind of people that would ride with you.

17. Watch DDLJ at Maratha Mandir - Come Fall in Love?? Totally cheezy! I am not a big fan of this movie yet, everytime it plays on TV, I tend to grab some moments from there. While Maratha Mandir has set a Guiness Record by showing this movie for the last 14 years (kidding!!), I am not sure how it'd be to watch it from there. Nevertheless, visiting MM is an fun considering the booming multiplexes that have made these ornate structures redundant.

18. Park at Hard Rock Cafe and mourn for a minute the death of mills around Parel.

19. Jog on Juhu Beach - The stretch next to the Godrej Bungalow near Holiday Inn is one of the better stretches to jog on. And not to forget, the indulgence of GOLA and all of #84 out here! Also, some kiddie moments of merry-go-rounds out here could be a good laugh.

20. Sit on a tetropod at Nariman Point in midnight till the police constables shoo you away.

21. Stand still on the flyover bridge at Dadar station and watch the crowd whiz by you - And if you are a woman, be prepared to get molested with n number of men touching you briskly. Yet, changing the trains from western to central lines at Dadar station at peak times is an experience to cherish. Kudos to people I know who did this every single day and to those who do so as I write!

22. Find out who is grittier You or Crawford Market? - The butchers' market area is extremely gory and I do think I can ever visit that part again!

23. Find the Fort Wall - now this would be interesting. I know that the Khaadi Bhandaar, Horniman Circle Gardens, Kala Ghoda are all part of this wall and mesmerizing to the core! But will have to see if I can spot the Wall beyond those vendors. On another note, a total must is to (a) enjoy the Kala Ghoda Festival (#92) and (b) watch a play/musical at the Horniman Circle Gardens. This can transform you to a magical night of light, color and grandeur.

24. Ride the Victoria on Marine Drive.

25. Discover the city's Jewish connect at Keneseth Eliyahoo Synagogue - added to my to-do list. I learnt more about this during the 26/11 attacks on the Jews.

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26. Watch the sunset over Aksa Beach in Madh Island - If I had to go this far, I'd choose the Renaissance in Powai overlooking the lake. Also, the sunset from Haji Ali (#1), from the upcoming sea-link, from the princess necklace they are all worth it!

27. Discover the underbelly of Mumbai in Dharavi - and make sure you do not get lost! On second thoughts, get lost and see where you land. If you are a shopoholic, venture into one of the leather shops and check out how the store owners boast about the display look-alikes of Louis Vitton, Gucci, Nine West, Prada and many more.

28. Stay for a night at Taj Mahal Palace Hotel. You definitely want to tick off this luxury address for the oh-I-stayed-there-for-a-while conversations. - More of the NRI types but worth being pampered at the Taj even if it means going to any of their restaurants or a massage at their salon. They surely know the essence of hospitality.

29. Catch the national madness of cricket in Oval Maidan.

30. Cheer a football match at Cooperage ground - and cricket at the Bombay Gymkhana especially if it is between the Xavierians and their Alumni!

31. Bury your nose in books for hours at Strand - enjoy bun-maska with tea at the corner and check out some souvenirs at the Bombay Store.

32. Stroll in Bombay University.

33. Climb the airport wall in Kurla to gain a phenomenal view of Boeings - I thought this was wired after it got destroyed during the 26/07 rains.

34. Swoon at a concert in Bandra Kurla Complex - worth visiting is the BKC gardens right ahead and enjoy the serenity there. It is a rare to spot such a place in the city unless it has already been infested by civilization.

35. Gaze at the Queen's Necklace from the Hanging Gardens at dusk - there used to be Cafe Naaz which was the bestest place to hang out. Sad they demolished it :-(

36. Hunt for antique furniture in Oshiwara.

37. Hike up the Mazgaon Hill.

38. Buy books from roadsides around Flora Fountain - one can get all kinds of banned books and some weird ones with spoofs on Men are from Mars...

39. Enjoy the private palaces of Malabar Hill - with flourishing towers, few exist. Nevertheless, the drive up and down the Hill are nice especially the latter which merges into an open stretch to get the first glance of the ocean.

40. Part on a ferry in the Arabian Sea off Gateway of India - how about ferrying up to the Elephanta Caves especially during the festival?

41. Take a break from the city. Vasai offers the ramparts of Bassein fort, ruins of Portuguese churches and East Indian food.

42. Trek in the Sahayadris - The best is Bhimashankar especially during the monsoons. Another thing during the monsoons is rafting in the Ulhaas River. Good rapids on the west coast of India!

43. Say hello to the fauna at Byculla Zoo.

44. Buy a camera from D N Road's gray market.

45. Dare the red light district of Kamathipura - this is not as bad as it sounds. Kind of overhyped and walking during broad day light, you do come face-to-face with stark reality that makes you wonder who is living in a bubble - them or you.

46. Guess what RFID system they use to tag clothes at the Dhobi Ghat - forget that. Just visiting the Ghats in unique and a photographer's delight. One needs to get there by 7am. Better still, watch as the sun sets it first rays on the Ghats as the beloved dhobis get to their act.

47. Take a power nap at David Sassoon Library.

48. Catch movies at art-deco cinemas: Regal, Eros, Metro - Sterling would top my list here.

49. Bow your head before the city's famou deities: Mumbadevi (where it all began!!), Mahalaxmi (Sunset view is awesome), Walkeshwar (beautiful architecture), Siddhivinayak (overrated but a must-do when in Mumbai), Iskcon (extremely serene..do try the coffee here)

50. Dine where Shahrukh Khans and Ness Wadias dine: Olive, Indigo. - If you do want to splurge, I would actually recommend Souk at Taj, Franjipani at Oberoi or Emperor's Court at Renaissance (The view from here is to die for).

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51. Feel the sufi mystism at dargahs of Haji Ali and Maqdoom Ali Mahimi.

52. Shop at the Bandra boutiques or if they are too expensive give Hill Road or Fashion Street a shot - Hill Road for sure. However, the best road-side shopping is Colaba Causeway followed by # 78.

53. Gape at famous residences: Shahrukh Khan's Mannat, Amitabh Bacchan's Jalsa - They all look the same to me and Ricky, no Shahrukh does not own an Island, he merely lives on one like other 13 million!

54. Discover the theatre scene in the city at venues other than Prithvi and NCPA: Sophia, St. Andrews, Rangsharda, Ravindra Natya Mandir.

55. Explore the Powai and Vihaar lakes - How can I ever forget the school picnics that were to these two destinations. Once considered as outskirts of the city are very much a part of sprawling township.

56. Visit the museums: Prince of Wales, Monetary, Modern Art, Mani Bhavan - these are not much to write home about and hope can be well-preserved. Mani Bhavan has something for a Gandhian and would be worth walking to the August Kranti Marg (rather what little remains of this historic site). The Prince of Wales Museum (now known as the Chatrapati Shivaji Maharaj Vaastu Sangrahalaya) is in one of the most precious areas of the city and has a grandeur image to it. Albeit in a run-down state of preservation, least one can do is pay a nominal fee of Rs. 5 (is that even a fee??) to find some pre-historic jewels, armours and artefacts.

57. Admire the British era architecture in Fort: Churchgate station, Western Railway headquarters, High Court, General Post Office, Telegraph Office, Police Headquarters - Mumbai, considered as one of the Victorian Gothic cities of the world, has been endowed by the British with a legacy of divergent styles. Totally worth checking these sites.

58. Learn about the rock-cut architecture: Elephanta, Kanheri, Mahakali and Karla Caves.

59. Explore the churches: Gloria church Byculla, Portugese, Mt. Mary Bandra, St. Michaels Mahim, St. Thomas Flora Fountain, Wodehouse Colaba, Afghan Church Navy Nagar, Our Lady of Salvation Dadar, St. Andrews Bandra - Mt. Mary's offers the best of times during the Bandra Fair every September.

60. Check out an art exhibition: Jehangir Art Gallery Fort, Tao Art Gallery Worli, Piramal Art Gallery Nariman Point - And if you do visit Jehangir Art Gallery, it is imperative you have Aloo Paratha and Raita at Cafe Samovar.

61. Buy fish at Sassoon Docks, Cuffe Parade or Dockyard Road, Mazgaon.

62. Find the forst of Mumbai: Bombay Castle, Castella de Aguada, Madh Fort, Mahim Fort, Sion Fort, Sewri Fort, Worli Fort.

63. Buy a vintage bollywood poster in Mini market or Lamington Road - Of course! Countless argumants I used to have with my mom about my 'justification' to have these posters in my room. What was I thinking?

64. Get away to the beaches around Mumbai: Alibag, Kashid, Murud, Nagaon.

65. Travel to places overnight: Goa, Ajanta Ellora, Mahabaleshwar, Pune, Khandala, Lonavala - Each place has its own USP, some for commercial purposes too. My favorites are Panchgani and to enjoy the beach, the cleanest stretch in Ganpatiphule in those fancy MTDC tents.

66. Discover the charm of marble tabletops, bentwood chairs and Irani chai at Parsi cafes - Sometimes it can be an overdoze if you work for a Parsi conglomerate.

67. Catch behind the scenes action at a Bollywood studio - They still have the sets used in epic series like Mahabaratha and Ramyana. Also, the view atop the hills in Goregaon is simply brilliant, what with a view of the growing sky-scrappers vis-a-vis the stumbling slums.

68. Loft the ball for a six in your neighbouring 'galli' cricket but make sure you do not break any window panes - and spot how the girls outweigh the boys!

69. Silently stare at the Towers of Silence and Agiaries.

70. Shadow the dabbawalas for one full day - this sounds like fun!

71. Walk through a koliwada.

72. Ride a vintage lift in a 100-year old building - true! Also, the liftmen here are more vintage than the life itself.

73. Travel in a local train. How about the Virar fast? - Check #20.

74. Ride in a double-decker bus. Isn't Mumbai the only city where they still run them? - To ride them on the Marine Drive-Chowpatty stretch is scenic.

75. If you have made it to a penthouse in Mumbai, you might as well enjoy the view.

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76. Drink cutting chai, eat vada pav - Any nook-corner of the city has its own taste of these. From Colaba to Virar, this diet is the heart of the city. Also, do try out the jhunka-bhakar at VT station.

77. Gorde on late-night sandwiches in Juhu.

78. Sip some wine at an expensive seaside restaurant: Vie Lounge Juhu, Dome Marine Drive, Aurus Juhu, Salt Water Grill Chaupatty.

79. Figure out what all the fuss is about having a beer in Mondegar or Leopold - You wouldn't want to miss this one. And do not forget the jukebox!

80. Jack your car bonnet using a cold-drink bottle and eat kebabs at Bade Miyaan in Taj's back alley - I was told that only the small bottles work for this one but this is worth a visit past midnight.

81. Savour a fine authentic meal of East Indian cuisine at Anant Ashram.

82. Eat a Gujarati-Marwari thali at Friends Union Joshi club in Kalbadevi - Personal favorite is the Thakkers at Marine Lines especially during the Mango season.

83. Smoke a hookah at roof-top restaurant Koyla in the Arab quarters of Colaba.

84. Eat South Indian fare in Matunga - Ashit would top this to the list!

85. Eat pav bhaji, pani puri, bhel puri, sev puri at Girgaum Chaupatty - Taste of the city lie in these items!

86. Chew a paan outside Shoppers' Stop, Bandra W - Mucchad Pan at Peddar Road cannot be beaten. He is a pan eater's addiction, an obsession. Do not believe me? Watch this.

87. Indulge yourself with fruity flavors of Naturals ice-cream. And if its summer, try a cup of Alfonso mangoes with malai ice-cream.

88. Learn the art of ordering tea in a streetside cafe "Ek Paani Kum Dena".- And also the art of drinking from those tiny 'shot' glasses which I am yet to get it right.

89. Drink Kingfisher, Cobra or Zingaro in your neighborhood look-alike bar of nightlovers - Naaah...these are boring. How about some sugarcane juice outside the Taj? That is to die for! However, I would not vouch for your gastronomic system to support it.

90. Try green chilli ice-cream at Bachelors - before that, some masala Khichyaa papad 'pizza' look-alike for sure!

91. Swing to some live music as you enjoy your continental meal at Not Just Jazz By the Bay. Do pay attention to the witty hoarding outside as you leave the place - True to its words 'Not Just...', it is fun karaoking to some rendition with a bunch of buddies.

92. Run the Mumbai Marathon - to support a cause!

93. Enjoy the Kala Ghoda Art Festival - and soak in the merriment.

94. Cheer 'Mumbai Indians' in an IPL cricket match at Wankhede Stadium - would be unlikely if the IPL is moved out of India. However, simply cheer India for a cricket match at the Wankhede but make sure that the tickets you purchase are genuine and not sold in black. The cops there know their job well and if caught, you can land in the local police station watching the match with the remaining havaldaars. Do not believe me? Ask my brother.

95. Get drenched to the bone while biking in the monsoons - quintessence of Mumbai, the city's monsoons are simply to rejoice and soak in pleasure.

96. Sing 'Govinda Aala Re Aala' as 40 feet high human pyramids take the prized matka - of course!! And if this is part of your community, make sure you do contribute decent amount into the matki. Else, it is not fair to them.

97. Get lost in the crowds of Ganesh Chaturthi - Totally!

98. Watch thousands of pink flamingos in the mangroves at Sewri - Another delight to the D90 and Cannon powershot owners but I hear this would be extinct due to the demolition of mangroves along that live :-(

99. Eat Nihari Kebabs and sweetmeats around Masjid on the eve of Eid.

100. Run a 'free hug' campaign. This is Mumbai, Meri Jaan - Jaadoo Ki Jappi always works!

And yet as I end this list, I feel it does not do justice to a zillion things one can come up to be in this Maximum City. Feel free to add your own experience to this.

Dhoop Kinarey: A Lost Culture?


Raat yun dil mein teri

khoyi hui yaad aayi;
Jaise wiraanay main,
chupke se bahaar aa jaye;
Jaise sehraaon mein
holay se chale baad-e-naseeb;
Jaise bimaar ko be-waj-ha qaraar aa jaaye!

This gazal is the essence of an epic drama that has laid the foundation of my knowledge of the people, the culture and of the land called Pakistan. Nearly 16 years ago, I was introduced to this series that led to an attraction and likeness towards Pakistan – what little is reflected from this piece of fiction.


Dhoop Kinarey – At the Edge of Sunshineepitomizes emotions of love, parenting, friendship and above all, respect. Each episode (I remember them as compiled in four video tapes) unfolds unique and special moments that bring out distinct sense of beauty through words and expression. Coupled with the fact that it is spoken in Urdu with an intermix of English adds a specialty that draws you further into the arena of Pakistani family culture – in a surreal sort of way. I had a go at this serial recently, like the nth time, and it mesmerized me in its entirety, all over again. It also made me sad to figure out what little might exist of this fiction in the current day and age in this country.

So the plot revolves around two doctors and their relationship amidst the stereotypical responses to situations. Dr. Ahmar Ansari - an established doctor who lives his life in isolation and for whom the greatest betrayal in life was given by his foster father - and Dr. Zoya Ali Khan - a young doctor, reluctant at first but begins to love the profession gradually, and Dr. Ahmar too. It may sound like a typical love-story of sorts and coming from a bollywood-centric society, sure indeed! But this serial is an act apart. Without divulging into the story any further, what I really want to highlight is the manner in which this drama unfolds and has exactly the same effect on me no matter what phase in my life I have watched it. As a 14-year old, Dr. Ahmar was a symbol of an ideal man and it is not any different right now. The character - completely male-centric (which male isn't) - runs away from the very person he loves and does not spare a moment to malign the woman he has fallen in love with simply because he is afraid to express his love for her. It is also the result of his deep hatred for the lady who, for no fault of hers, is bestowed with his ancestral home that his foster father (her grand-father) left for her. On the other hand is Dr. Zoya's character, bold and free-spirited who stands tall during instances when what matters is one's beliefs and values:

"Main buzdil nahin hoon Anji; par maine jhuk ke kabhi koi cheez nahin maangi" (I am not a coward Anji; but I have never begged for anything). This says a lot about the character.

Despite the age-gap that exists between them, their journey towards maturity, professionalism, responsibility and love, can be viewed with a light of subtlty, honor and innocence. Then there are these other characters in the form of confidante, a friend, the father and a caretaker, that reflect those of a progressive society - a father who supports her daughter's dreams and aspirations, a friend who stands tall when it comes to providing objective and critical judgment, a caretaker who unconditionally showers love and care. And not to forget, the envious Dr. Sheena who flawlessly portrays her character with precision. Absolutely no hamming in the scenes, no glamorous/ornate sets and simplicity to the core! Basically, scenes you can relate to - like the homes you live in, surroundings and people that are believable and leave deeper impact to the language, words and expressions. Some of my favourite dialogues and scenes in the serial:


"Hum Insaan ko makammal daur par na jaan sakte hai, na samajh sakte hain”
[It is during trying times when people can neitber be known nor can they be ever understood]

"Har kaam aadmi apni pasand se to nahin karta, bahut se kaam doosron ke khatir kiye jaate hain; balki mera khayal hain ki aadmi apni behtar zindagi doosron ke khatir basar karta hain.Apne liye to chand se lamhe mil jaate hain; woh bhi itefaak se"
[You do not necessarily do things of your own liking. There are many things you do for the sake of others. Infact, I believe that large part of our lives are spent living for others. For us, just a few moments to live by and that too by coincidence]

"Hum jo kuch dekhte hain, woh zaroori nahin ke sach bhi ho; aankhon ko kabhi khuli daur pe aitbaar kiya nahin jaa sakta".
[
What we see may not necessarily be the truth; Although wide open, our eyes cannot always be trusted]

"Zindagi mein bahut si baatein aisi hoti hain, jiski wajah se aadmi ke andar kadwaahat bhar jaati hain."

[Several instances in life lead people to become bitter]

"Hum bhala apni arzooun ke darwazay kaise band kar sakte hain? Ye hamaray ikhtyaar mein kab hain? Ye umeeden, ye arzooien to zindagi ke aainay hain. In mein hum apni tasveeren saja kar, khushiyon ki duniya aabaad karte hain. Phir agar mere dil ne koi arzoo ki, to kya koi jurm kya?"
[How can we close doors on our own desires? Is this even in our being? These wishes, these desires are truly the mirrors of our lives. In these, we create a picture, a life full of happiness. And then if my heart desires someone/something, is it a crime?]

"Zindagi ke jitne bhi morr hote hain na, ye andhay hote hain. Yehi tu zindagi ka husn hai."
[it is a general rule in life that all crossroads we arrive at are blind.]

Zoya: "Nafrat insaan ki achaayion, ache jazbon, sab kuch ko is tarah khatam kar deti hain, jaise jungle ki aag zara si dair main sab kuch tabah kar deti hai."
Anji: "Nahi Zoya, main nahi maanti. Dekho, maine dekha hai, Zoya. Ke zara sa andhera bohut si roshni ko chupa nahi sakta. Lekin zara si roshni sab andheray mita deti hai. Aur dekho, Zoya, nafrat bhi to andheray ki tarah hoti hai na."
[Zoya: Hatred kills every good deed, good thoughts just like the way a fire in the forest destroys everything in an instance.
Anji: No Zoya, I do not believe in this. I have seen that slightest bit of light can destroy total darkness but even a little bit of darkness cannot hide the light. Hatred is just like darkness.]

"Main unki nafrat ka maan rakhongi!"
[I shall respect his hatred]

And my favourite,

"Rona koi buri baat to nahin, acchi baat hain. Jab bohut saara paani barsata hai na to aasmaan bilkul saaf nazar aata hai aur aasmaan par saath rangon ki dhanak nikal aati hain".
[Crying is not a bad thing, infact it is good. When there is a lot rain shower, the sky appears crystal clear and in there one can view the seven-coloured rainbow]

So with such a legacy as set by Haseena Moin, once considered meaningful, memorable and flawless, what has happened now? A Culture lost amidst the realities of terrorism, power and religion? It would be sad indeed to see the death of such art in Pakistan albeit fiction.

Here or There? - The Eternal Dialogue

In our on-going search for a rental condominium, Ashit and I chanced upon a particular one, wherein the existing tenant who was supposed to meet us, was not around but told us his parents would let us in. I would not bore you with the story of our condo-search, or the condo, or even the tenant but just a snapshot of our conversation, with the parents, that has been chasing within the walls of my brain since last night.

Part I

(We walk by the long alley leading to the condo, knock at the door and are greeted by an elderly couple)

Us (they are Indians):
"Hello, we have come to see the condo and your son told us you would be here."
Them (Oh, desi bacche):
"Yes yes, he called and told us you were coming by. Come I will show you around."
Us (looks like they are visiting his son): "So how long has your son been in this house?"
Them: "About two years. We have come from India to help him move out and possibly buy a house."
Us: "Thats nice. It is a good market to buy a place."
Them: "Yes yes, in the rent you pay, you are better-off buying one. We lived in this country for almost 25 years and yet never know when is a good time to buy. I say, you just buy if you have to."
Us: "Oh 25 years, that is long indeed and you moved back to India now?"
Them: "We lived there for a year but will be between the two countries. My son and daughter both live here; they will settle down here."

Part II

Them (they are like my kids only; let me give them some tips):
"Make sure you check this place thoroughly before moving in. See to it that the land lady cleans the condo properly before you move in. The carpet was not cleaned at all and the walls have stains all over."
Us:
"Thank you 'uncle', that is really good to know."
Them:
"Of course, you are Indians so I thought you should know. Do not tell the land lady I said these things."
Us:
"No do not worry. We appreciate you said so we know in case we decide on this condo."
Them:
"Yes yes, my son and his friends moved into this apartment immediately after the previous tenants moved out. So the land lady did not do much cleaning or repair. And boys will be boys so they just do not care for such things. They do not even listen when we tell them to check things properly. There is no light in any of the rooms. You have to add lamps, etc. The compressor was malfunctioned so the gas bill was high.."
Us (wow we know more than we need to...that is great):
"These things are useful for us in case we move in. Thank you for sharind this with us. By when would your son move out of the condo?"
Them:
"By the end of next month. We have notified the land lady and once we finalize the house, we will be out. But these kids do not listen..that is a problem. They just do what they want to do."
Us (can hear our parents echo the same!!):
"Our parents complain the same about us."

Part III

Them:
"Oh so you intend to move back to India? Why? Make sure you plan well before you leave this country. India is quite expensive and when we go there, you will realize things were cheaper in the US. Hope you are planning well."
Us (We better get going, its getting late):
"Yes, we have been visiting often and realize things are different. But our entire family is there and the ties make us want to move back."
Them (oh, how I miss my family!):
"Yes yes, I totally understand what you must be going through. Absolutely feel how it must be for you. We did not want to live in this country for the same reason. I was in India before I came to the US. My company moved me to the Middle-East but there were legal issues with my family joining me there and I could not leave them behind in India. When my children were born, I took the offer to move to the US instead and then time just went by. Now my kids are Americans. They have hardly visited India - maybe two-three times in their entire lives. They do not even like it there."
Us (sad..looks like they do not have much company around here and hence sharing with us)
Them: "I tell you, kids do not listen. They are so independent and hardly want to be with us (by now, their eyes are a bit moist). We feel rejected.."
Us (generation gap is it?): "No 'uncle', do not make assumptions; it is not rejection but things just work differently here if you compare to India."
Them: "Yes, yes I know it is not entirely rejection...but they do not want to listen to us. I told my wife just a while ago, "Be calm, there is no point in being hyper". Just a while ago, our son was home and we told him to stay home since you were coming. Heee would just not bother and said, "you guys are around, I am off.."
Us (that bugger, knew you would have done that): "Its ok, we anyways, were here to see the condo and then would talk to the land lady directly." Them: "Yes, but he just took off. See they hardly bother. Things are different in India...when you have people over, you share a cup of tea, some snacks. Here it is sooo diferent. Even to meet your own blood, you need to call them, take an appointment! Kids here do not have strong ties with family. It is just the way that it! Few months ago, my mother passed away and I got a call from my children, "Sorry to hear that Dad" and bang, no words of expression. They have hardly met my mother 2-3 times their entire life. What do we say?"

End.

While realizing there are two sides to this, I never thought I would come face-to-face with this reality. I thought I was only supposed to read them in books, see them in movies or simply hear tales of such instances. Listening to it in first person did leave questions in both our minds when we got home.
1. If we do end up staying in the US for a long time and start a family, will we say the same things 30 years down the line?
2. Is this one of the reasons we want to go back to India? What is the guarantee we would not say the same things even if we did move?
3. Is this even such a big deal?
4. Does it matter where we are brought up or really the 'way' we are raised?
5. Hope our parents do not say the same things about us to others. Have we sub-consciously responded this way to our parents?

I can sympathize with the 'uncle' and 'aunty' and truthfully feel sad for them. And what else can one do anyways? But the way I see it, things do stand different in this day and age. Infact, being in India does not guarantee a bonded upbringing just like being outside of it does not necessarily mean privileged with opportunities. More than the place, what would matter more is the the thought-process in the kind of future I would want to raise a family, places to go to, people to meet, a journey that one is
meant to be on rather than assuming it best for the unborn. Hence, I would not want to reason my decision, to stay in a particular place, based on what would be best suited for my child who is not even born in thought.

There were loads of opportunities my parents gave me (and my siblings) and we made the most of it. In that sense, we were privileged indeed! And thanks to the rapport developed between us, we share a fair amount of openness, trust,
space and most of all, hugh unconditional emotional attachment. And this is the reason why being in India means more than anything else. Other things just follow suit.


Rape Game _ Are we going insane?

Based on my friend’s recent facebook status, I googled to watch this piece of news that not only angered me but also gave me goosebumps to shudder:





As a fan of video games, I have thoroughly enjoyed Atari as a kid and now there is the Wii. But to imagine a game that shows filth and seeks pleasure in such sick piece of animation and simply makes it sound like a ‘video game’, in my opinion deserves to be ostracized. I feel ashamed that our race can even denigrate to such low levels of greed, lust and even dominance.

It is said that where we breed is a reflection of who we are and of our identities. I would not want to comment much on this but the fact that some evil mind that has conceptualized and designed such a horrendous device, what more can be said of such minds.

"If the girl is raped and gets pregnant, you have to convince her to have an abortion; if you cannot get her to do it, you have the option to throw her under a train."

I cannot fathom to think of the pleasure that anyone can attach to such actions albeit virtually. It took some time for me to calm down and accept such form of reality as well but really, how dare someone even seek a market for this kind of sadism? This may sound naïve to those who might have come across this piece of information and many more of such gory instances. To me, watching this news seemed as if we are a human race that truly lack any sense of morality or sense of responsibility – are we people that simply lack?

I only wonder what kind of think-tank would have partnered this act? Doesn't making such devices actually lead to such acts?

Hope my conscience is not alone in feeling the restlessness after viewing this clip.